Hey guys (and gals),
In this post, I’m going to teach you how to last longer in bed so that you and your partner can start enjoying sex again and take your sexual relationship to whole new levels.
By reading this page, you will learn:
- How you can last longer in bed TONIGHT
- How you can satisfy any woman at any time
- How you can learn to control your ejaculation reflex
There are a large number of techniques and treatments available for premature ejaculation, which makes finding a cure for the problem seem a bit overwhelming. Factors such as how easy they are to implement, how affordable they are and how effective they are will all contribute towards your selection of treatment(s).
Fortunately, I’m here to walk you through all your options and offer my personal recommendations so that you can make an informed decision about how you proceed from this point onwards.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
But first, let’s take a look at what premature ejaculation is.
According to Princeton University’s Wordnet, premature ejaculation is defined as “ejaculation during the early stages of sexual excitement or soon after the insertion of the penis into the vagina“.
This usually means that a man reaches orgasm a lot sooner than their sexual partner, resulting in their partner feeling unfulfilled and dissatisfied and themselves feeling anxious and depressed.
Even in the most loving partnerships, this can put a lot of stress and strain on the relationship and can even result in the relationship breaking down irreparably due to the tension and frustration it creates.
Therefore, finding a solution for how to last longer in bed is a very important priority for many couples.
NOTE: Premature Ejaculation should not be confused with Erectile Dysfunction or Impotence (when a man has difficulty getting an erection or their erection is not hard enough to penetrate), however one of these afflictions can sometimes lead to the other.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
Broadly speaking, the causes of premature ejaculation can be split into two categories; physical and psychological.
Physical causes of premature ejaculation are often associated with men who have developed the condition over a short period of time (i.e. it has not been a life-long problem). It can indicate an underlying disease or illness as the true cause, such as:
- Diabetes
- Prostate disease
- Hypertension (high blood pressure)
- Drug abuse
If you have suddenly started to have premature ejaculation problems it is recommended you get yourself checked out by your doctor before using the techniques below to rule out another illness being the root cause.
Psychological causes of premature ejaculation are often associated with men that have suffered with this issue most of their life.
One of the most common psychological causes is self-conditioning to ejaculate quickly. During adolescence, it may be necessary for a man to ejaculate quickly during sexual intercourse or masturbation and this habit remains in adulthood. Traumatic sexual experiences can also be a cause.
In addition, psychological illnesses such as anxiety, depression and even too much stress can also cause premature ejaculation.
Ways To Last Longer In Bed
As I mentioned earlier, perhaps the best way to start dealing with premature ejaculation problems is to visit your doctor. Although I highly recommend that this be your first port-of-call, I also understand that it can be very daunting for men to talk about bedroom problems with a medical professional.
Therefore, I’ve provided a list of treatments and techniques that can help you to last longer in bed without visiting your doctor. Each of these methods has been given between 1 and 5 stars for their cost, effectiveness, how long it takes before it begins to make a difference and ease of use (1 being the worst and 5 being the best).
Prolonged Masturbation
Effectiveness: *** (3 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: *** (3 stars)
Easiness: **** (4 stars)
Prolonged masturbation is a method that can be used to reverse the psychological conditioning mentioned earlier. Whereas you may have conditioned yourself to ejaculate quickly during adolescence, you now condition yourself to last longer by indulging in longer masturbation sessions.
Masturbate until you are just about to ejaculate and then stop. Continue again when you feel it is safe to do so. Do this three times and on the fourth time allow yourself to ejaculate. With practice you can effectively ‘teach’ your body and mind to last longer.
This is a cheap and simple technique that you can use right away, however it may take a month or two before you start to see any positive effects. In addition, success rates using this method vary from person to person, results ranging from a complete cure to making no difference whatsoever.
More about prolonged masturbation
Kegals
Effectiveness: **** (4 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: *** (3 stars)
Easiness: ***** (5 stars)
Kegals are a pelvic floor exercise designed to strengthen the pubococcygeal muscles. If these muscles are strong, they can give you more control over when you ejaculate.
These muscles are located at the bottom of the pelvis between your scrotum and anus. You can feel them contract during ejaculation or if you stop yourself mid-way through urinating. Once you know where they are, exercising them is as simple as contracting and relaxing them, which can be performed almost anywhere and at any time.
This is another cheap and easy technique, however effectiveness can vary and it may take a month or two before you see any results.
Breathing Techniques
Effectiveness: *** (3 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: *** (5 stars)
Easiness: ***** (5 stars)
By taking a sharp intake of breath just before you feel that you’re about to orgasm, it is possible to suppress the reflex that causes you to ejaculate.
Unfortunately, this technique does not work for everyone, however it is easy to try and costs nothing, so it is worth giving it a go next time you masturbate or have sex.
More about breathing techniques
The Stop-Start Technique
Effectiveness: ** (2 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: ***** (5 stars)
Easiness: **** (4 stars)
The Stop-Start technique is one that is recommended by many experts in the field of premature ejaculation, however I personally am not a big fan of it.
It is based on the same idea as the prolonged masturbation technique above but is implemented during sexual intercourse instead. When you feel orgasm approaching, you stop for a few moments to prevent ejaculation. You can continue to stimulate your partner during this time with your hand or tongue.
It’s cheap, quick and easy to do but although there have been a number of reports of success using this method, the constant stopping and starting can drive you and your partner nuts. Therefore I’d recommend that you only use it if it does not cause frustration with you and your partner.
Detain X
Effectiveness: ***** (5 stars)
Cost: ** (2 stars)
Time: *** (3 stars)
Easiness: **** (4 stars)
Detain X is a natural supplement created by esteemed physiologist Dr. Ringwold.
Using the supplement daily increases the levels of serotonin in your brain helping you to last longer in bed. This is because a deficiency of serotonin has strong links to sufferers of premature ejaculation.
It is one of the most effective treatments, however it is more costlier than the other ‘free’ techniques listed here and it can take between a couple of weeks to a couple of months for any noticeable improvements to become apparent. It also comes with a money-back guarantee if you’re not 100% happy.
More about Detain X
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Shallow Penetration
Effectiveness: *** (4 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: **** (4 stars)
Easiness: **** (4 stars)
One of the things I noticed when I suffered from premature ejaculation was that I tended to orgasm more quickly the deeper I penetrated my partner. So I developed a technique whereby I would only penetrate my partner up to around the halfway point of my penis.
Using this method I discovered that I could last a lot longer, whilst still giving my partner great satisfaction. I also found out that I could have sex a lot faster and more vigorously with this method.
It’s quick, cheap and easy to try and I’d urge every man to give it a go.
More about shallow penetration
Focus
Effectiveness: *** (4 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: **** (4 stars)
Easiness: ** (2 stars)
It is possible to last longer by focusing your mind on unsexy thoughts whilst having sex.
By thinking about something totally unrelated to sex (such as a maths problem or your shopping list) you are taking away the psychological causes premature ejaculation, leaving only your physical reflexes to reach orgasm.
Although it is a quick and cheap technique and has a great success rate, getting into the right mentality when you are in a passionate situation can be quite difficult and require quite a lot of practice.
Squeeze
Effectiveness: ** (2 stars)
Cost: ***** (5 stars)
Time: *** (3 stars)
Easiness: *** (3 stars)
One of the more traditional methods of stopping premature ejaculation is to use what is known as the ‘squeeze’ technique.
When you feel orgasm approaching, you can suppress the ejaculatory reflex by squeezing the tip of you penis.
Some people have had success with this method but, like the stop-start method, it can be highly impractical during love-making sessions and so I don’t recommend this method very highly.
More about the squeeze technique
Prejaculation
Effectiveness: ***** (5 stars)
Cost: *** (3 stars)
Time: **** (4 stars)
Easiness: **** (4 stars)
One of the leading pieces of literature on premature ejaculation is Prejaculation. This is a manual that can teach you complete orgasm and ejaculation control using a variety of different methods.
Like Detain X, it requires spending money but the cost is more than outweighed by the positive results you receive from it. And, again, there is a full money-back guarantee if you’re not 100% satisfied.
Summary
I’ve discussed a large majority of the methods available to help you to last longer in bed and the method or methods you use are now up to you.
I would recommend using the shallow penetration method first because it can have great effects relatively quickly.
If it doesn’t work for you, grab a copy of Prejaculation or try the focusing and breathing techniques.
If you are still having problems, give detain x a try.
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