How To Last Longer in Bed

Hey ladies,

This post is written specifically for women that have partners who are suffering from premature ejaculation and contains advice on how to resolve the problem of your boyfriend or husband not lasting long in bed.

The first thing you need to do is ensure that your husband understands how the problem is affecting you and, indeed, that he does have a problem.

It is important to be sensitive about the issue as the realization that a man is not satisfying his partner can be very distressing for and can lead to anxiety and depression. Putting pressure on you husband or boyfriend to perform will often compound the problem.

There may be many reasons why your man ejaculates quickly and each of them are discussed below. It is recommended you tackle the problem in the order that is presented below.

Laziness

Being a man myself, I know that we can be lazy at times and just fancy a quick session. It could be that over time your man has got used to speedy sexual intercourse and doesn’t realize he is not bringing you to orgasm.

You could start by talking to him about his sexual fantasies, without mentioning your need for him to last longer. During the conversation, you should share with him a few of your sexual fantasies and one of them should be long and passionate sexual intercourse.

Once you’ve learned about each other’s desires, you can suggest trying some of them out in future sex sessions,perhaps making a deal whereby one night you perform one of your partner’s fantasies and the next night you perform one of yours.

This technique is very subtle and your man won’t even realize that you are not being satisfied or that there is a problem at all, so there will be no added pressure for him to perform.

Psychological

If the above technique doesn’t work, you will have to speak to your partner about the issue and how it is affecting you. Although he may be upset at first and suffer from a damaged ego, it will be difficult to resolve the problem if he isn’t aware of it. The alternative is to not say anything and continue to be dissatisfied in the bedroom.

Be caring and sensitive about the issue – after all, ejaculation is a reflex action and your man has limited or even no control over it.

Check out my ten tips to last longer in bed for advice on how ejaculation can controlled.

Physical

Premature ejaculation can be caused by a variety of different illnesses (check out my article on reasons why men can’t last long in bed for further details).

Prostate disease, high blood pressure and stress can lead to early ejaculation, so your boyfriend or husband should visit his doctor for a check-up to ensure that there is no underlying disease that may be causing him to ejaculate quickly.

The doctor will be able to offer treatments for any diseases that are picked up during the health check.

There are also a number of non-prescription natural remedies for premature ejaculation on the market such as Detain X (see my Detain X review here).